2011年6月13日 星期一

Training the male part 3 - Clothing

Clothing is a most important aspect of male training. It is a proven fact that the male in particular responds well to attire. For example the uniforms worn by various occupations or positions is designed to not only be functional (in some cases) but o inspire the wearer. When one walks into a business the various positions are immediately identifiable by what the person is wearing. Clothes do make the person and this consideration is vital to proper control, attitude and happiness for the subject.

In our society we must be aware of how others feel and react to what we do. Various outfits have their place and acceptance which is not at all standard but various with the season and the location as well as the occupation. A bit of common sense as well as creativity is needed. For example it is not at all uncommon to see women walking the streets or shopping in a bikini in Florida or
southern California but to do so in Montana or North Dakota even in the hot summer is just not acceptable. We must be mindful so as not to cause a public stir.

At the same time we have no idea if the department head of a major bank is wearing thongs under her business suite or plain Jane women's underwear and it doesn't to matter to us for it is a private matter. The same applies to the male. He may not be able to wear a French Maids uniform to go grocery shopping in but he certainly can be wearing a bra, panties and nylons, painted toe nails
and if in colder months that bra can be padded and he can also have on a corset and possibly even his finger nails polished under gloves. My rule is that he must be as feminized as possible for the circumstances. This can include much outerwear if done carefully.

For example, Sissie wears only women's jeans. Some are more feminine than others but I don't permit him to wear men's pants. He does not own a pair of men's underwear as there is no need for it and it sends a wrong signal that maybe he is a man in some way or that it's ok for him to act like a man at times, it's not and he has no need for them. You ask,  "what about the doctor?"  My answer is "What about the doctor?" Sissie has a variety of panties from the most sissyish with frills and lace and bows sewn on them to make sure he feels and is well aware of his sissy status. But he also has some plain white "Hanes Her Way" cotton panties that he can wear in situations that they are more suitable for such as going to the doctor. And while we are on the doctor all of his professional people should be female. He needs to learn that women are above, have the power, the knowledge and are there to advise him. It is women that help him and show him the right way. Sissie has been exposed several times to medical people in his panties. It is curious as to how well it is accepted and shared. When it is discovered by a medical professional I notice they do not get alarmed or look shocked, but they do seem to need extra help and one or two extra female staff will typically become involved in his examination. This of course does provide for some amusement on my part and some needed humiliation on his part helping him to understand t is acceptable and appreciated by other women.

There is NO reason for most males to own any male underwear the exception being some occupations where they must change their clothing in front of other males but in that case a new occupation should be in route as obviously the present one is hindering your males development and will restrict your leadership, control and molding of him in a detrimental way.

I spoke a moment ago about males being put into women's jeans. It is not at all uncommon for women to wear men's jeans and find the fit is better or at least the look and the same can be true for males. I love to take Sissie to a store and have him try on several pairs of men's pants. He is of course tucked and wearing a body shaper to accent his bottom and reduce the bulge totally. I have a female clerk assist and comment on how they don't fit right in the front, that they appear baggy. She will agree and then I suggest we have him try a pair of women's jeans saying I sometimes find men's jeans fit me better. She will agree again. Then he is soon modeling women's jeans which fit much better and she and I will both agree to that point. Soon we are both satisfied and she
has learned a lesson in sales and can apply it to other customers where the female is obviously leading the purchase. It is somewhat comforting to walk out of a store knowing you have publicly and successfully put your male into women's jeans with the help and support of the store clerk.

For the male, well he understands now that his body is not like a real man's body because women's clothes fit him better. He cannot pretend any different, he cannot escape the fact that he is more feminine than masculine and that others know and see it. It helps him accept his subservient role in your relationship, easier and faster. In addition he will look at his fit in the mirror, something he probably would never have done as a man. This is a welcome sign as he is now learning to pay attention and appreciate fashion and how he looks. This can only encourage him to want to look better, be neater and more attentive to his appearance. He will take a sense of pride and style that will make him a better person and allow him to be prideful and look forward to more and greater appearance improvements, a very desirable feminine trait!

At home I dress the sissy to fit the job. It's a very simple concept and it works extremely well. It often affords the sissy to change clothes four or more times in a day which is something they learn to really love and look forward to which encourages them to perform each job well and quickly, just so they can put on another outfit " As the sissy looks forward to dressing properly and
focusing on the next outfit you will see his productivity increase. He will soon be doing the domestic tasks in half the time it took you simply because he has something to look forward to be rewarded with if you will. This encouragement comes with your aid though and you must be mindful of the importance you play in training him properly.

For example he may really love to wear a French Maids uniform, most sissies do because of the frills and the bounce and the ultra submissive femininity it portrays. But it is certainly not a proper outfit to do rough housework in and will only result in a ruined uniform! It is also not the proper wear to do secretarial work or to do yard work in. But the male does not think in this manner naturally he must be trained. He must be taught what to wear and why for each position. When one of my sissies does house work they wear a plain maid's uniform with plain simple low heel shoes. The uniform is to be functional and practical I certainly don't want an expensive perfectly white petticoat getting into dirty floor water or soaking up grease from cleaning an oven, no, that is
not practical. On the other hand I don't want my sissy maid dressed like a scrub maid if I have a guest and he is serving dinner! No, then he should be attired in a perfectly clean and neat French Maids uniform and 5 inch heels. He needs to act and look professional and elegant. This takes a great deal of work and the sissy can practice for many hours in doing this without having a guest present. He can practice n you every evening if you wish or just go through the motions.

Why the practice? Practice makes perfect'Kwell not really the reason. The reason is that if he has done it enough times when the pressure is on and there will be pressure when he has to cook and serve your lover and you dinner for the first time dressed as a sissy French Maid, when that pressure is on he will revert entirely to his training. He will perform with less anxiety than you have and he will love doing it because it will seem natural. As he gets into the action he will soon see he is capable and that inspires confidence and as the confidence builds he will actually take a great deal of pride and enjoy pleasure in performing for you and your guest. Trust me, it works that way. Just train him over and over and tell him ahead of time what you plan to do, no big surprises he needs to know what is expected so he can do what is expected. Treat him like the maid not like your husband or boyfriend or son or whatever. He is NOW your maid and must act and perform in that manner and you and your guest must treat
him that way. If he does well give him a smile and nod but that's all. If he does bad give him a frown and a shake of your head to indicate he is displeasing you. Be sure to give orders such as, "we will have more coffee now Sissie (use his feminine name). " You may clear the table now and bring us a drink in the den." You must EXPECT and he must understand that you do have expectations. He must know what those expectations are. We as women sometimes incorrectly think a male can understand or know what we want. We are very bad at thinking this. We are dealing with males for gosh shakes do you really think they are that smart? Well if you do you need to reassess that thought and both learn and understand that they are not and that they need to be told what to do, how to do it, what to think and why to think it.

Do not expect your male to know what you want or how to do what you want or even what to do unless you have taught him on the subject. This is a major cause of frustration and unhappiness in relationships. Yes you should expect him to serve and worship you but YOU my dear must train him on how to do those things. That is why it is called a "Female Led Relationship" That is why the female led relationship is so successful because the woman realizes and applies the technique of training and leading the male in a direction that will be both pleasing and satisfying to both parties and its all simply about communication and training. Getting him to understand how to please and serve you and you rewarding him for doing so. That's all he wants or needs, it's really pretty
simple yet most women never realize it.

The woman who simply maries a man and then expects to live in bliss with him treating her like the princess she is, understanding her needs and wants, catering to her whims and personality is a fool. It's all about getting what you want to make your life wonderful. You would no sooner hand money overt o a bum on the street and tell him to go by your clothes or furniture or pick put your home. Telling him whatever he does is ok with you. Just do something, would you? Would expect good results if you operated in this manner? I would certainly hope not yet women do it all the time in marriage. You hear the comments, "well that��s the way he was when I married him", "he was raised that way". "I am not happy but I don't know (do) what to do about it, he just does not seem to change."  "I would love to have a husband like she has that dotes over her". All sorry excuses made by women who think that the heavens will open up and fairy dust will suddenly fall on their male and he will turn into prince charming. Let's get real ladies, Your life is what you make it. You have nice car and nice clothes and a nice home it's because you wanted it that way. If you have a lazy uncaring bore of a husband it's because YOU wanted it that way. Oh you really think you didn't want it that way? You say no you wanted it different but it just happened that way. Wake up ladies, if you DON'T paint the wall from time to time it gets old looking and funcky. If you don't fix your hair it gets raged and messy. You, yes you have the power to train any male to be whatever you want.

I grew up in a home where women were treated like second class citizens. I didn't like it. I decided that was not for me. I got married and fell into the same trap, was used and treated like the weekly garbage or maybe even worse because at least the garbage got taken out once a week! But then I woke up and saw the light and when I married the second time I vowed it would be a female
led marriage and that he would be my maid and I would enjoy men as many men as I wanted. A tall order back in those days but after 29 years and never one issue from him I must say it has worked quite well. He is happy, he is useful and pleasant and every woman that meets him wants him so I must have done something right. Yes he is a sissy, yes he is a cuckold, but he loves me deeply as I do him and he serves me the way I want and deserved to be served and we are both very, very happy. So "Klike I said" Kit's all up to you. When a woman takes control and leads a relationship it works out far better than when a male leads. Males are genetically engineered to serve and please and as women we are fools if we waste that talent.

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