2011年6月8日 星期三

[sissieslifeandtimes] Training your male correctly by Madam Rebecca



Women have passed a cross roads that allows them to be who they want to be. The fact is that 100 years ago women could not do what men could do. They could not drive trucks or really cars for that matter. They could not farm, they could not work industrial jobs because the jobs required great physical strength and women did not poses that sort of strength naturally and few trained for it.



Women, therefore, did softer jobs and men did the hard labor. They were in effect the beasts of burden. However let's not forget that women's labors were not so easy then either. Cooking took all day, laundry the same. So while boys were often petticoated and men henpecked it was kept quiet because of peer pressure and the fear that women could be punished by being left without a man to do for her.

Fast forward to now and we live in an entirely different world. A woman can do anything a man can do today and much of it better. She excels in many areas such as education proving she is smarter. Many top businesses are owned or operated by a woman and the wealth is in the hands of women.


Female led business, relationships and marriages are becoming the norm even though many are still kept quiet. Many times men are allowed to look like they are in charge in public but behind closed doors they tow the line like good submissive boys. There is still a stigma about men being allowed to appear as in charge or tougher or whatever. Buts it changing.


When I first married Sissie, my husband it was not possible to openly demonstrate my full power without some expression of shock. Today no one seems to be at all shocked that he is a petticoated cuckold husband. But how is that possible?


Like we discussed, things have changed. Women challenge men in most areas with the great exception of physical strength. Yes there are some women that are physically stronger than men but it is likely about 10% only. A woman's strength is not in her shoulders or arms it is in her femininity and a males weakness for it. Men are still beasts of burden to any intelligent woman. Yes we can and do love them; yes they do and will serve many other purposes but take the horse a comparison. The horse is far stronger than any human and can do greater physical work than any human but it is the human that controls the horse as it is the woman who controls the man.


Men, like horses are very trainable. In fact any good dog training book can be used to train any male into a satisfactory servant. No we don't need them to roll over but we can use the same techniques to train a male. Instead of a biscuit we offer them pussy. Instead of a newspaper to the nose we use a crop on their balls and in no time they will obey and listen and perform as we want.


Men natural want to please, much like the domestic dog does. They just need to be taught how to please. Each of us women are different in what we want, who we are and what our individual needs are. So the first thing to do is to do a self examination of ourselves. Who are we? What is it that we truly want? What will please us? If we don't know then we can't train our males to understand now can we?


Let's use me for an example. I need a male who will be very faithful, not just in not cheating on me but being faithful to me no matter what I do or want or say. So he must be blindly faithful having no selfish needs and putting mine first.


I need a male who will be happy in pleasing me, I don't like long faces or lower lips stick out sulking so he must learn to be happy for me when I am happy and do whatever it takes to make me happy when I am not.

I HATE housework and other domestic chores. I had to do it all when I was young and got over it real quick so I need a maid. I don't really want a female maid that presents trouble because her boyfriend wants her to do this or that or she is in love and quits of does not feel good so does not show up, so I want a male to be my maid and be very good at being my maid.

I like men, real men, that know how to make love and treat a girl right but can be put away when I am done with them meaning no commitments on my part with them. I want a variety and I want them to be temporary meaning fresh meat from time to time. This rules out my permanent male because he cannot possibly fit this bill so he must be accepting of those that are which means he must accept being a cuckold.


I don't want to spend my time disciplining him, I want him smart enough and adaptable enough and tolerant enough to know and do what it is I want him to do on his own or with few words from me, to accept his position and be grateful for it.


I darn sure want him to know whose boss and to show he knows whose boss not only to me but to others as well. He must show complete respect and take whatever I choose to dish out or he won't due.  Ok that's enough for now. That's MY wants and who I am your different so your needs will differ. Btu now that you know what is you want you begin to train your male to understand and comply with your needs and wants. You do this though feminine wiles. You don't use man type methods. You remain calm cool and
collected. You speak softly, even more so when he is wrong. You reward him when he does well and ignore him when he is bad.


Your rewards must start out with great sex. You make him feel wonderful. You fuss over him and pamper him and give him more sex than he can stand. You get him used to it, very used to it. But if he is bad, then you ignore him. Minimum words, no personal attention, no praise but as soon as he does well again you lavish it on him.



Once he understands that he will be rewarded as long as he pleases you and ignored when he does not then you can begin to stretch it out. And don't hide the fact of what you are doing. For example, you want him to do the housework and he does it so he gets sex but then he is satisfied for several days and does not do it. Calmly say to him, "I like to reward you for good behavior but you are using it to your advantage and when you get what you want then you revert to bad behavior so from now on you will need to do the housework all week for a reward at the end. If you fail to do it even once or do it poorly you will not be rewarded until the following week and only then if you have done what you were supposed to for that entire week, do you understand?"

Now you are making real progress. If you need sex and he is not doing what he is supposed to tell him that you do not plan to go without sex just because he is, that it is not your intention to punish yourself for his bad behavior. You can then choose to get sex elsewhere or not but at least let him think you might.


In my case I want my Sissie to know his place and everyone around him to know his place. It's important to me for others to know who holds the power and not question it. So in my case I want him dressed like a maid when he is doing domestic work. This has two effects. First he recognizes he has given up his manhood and the right to give me orders and second the clothes do make the man. While he is dressed in a maid's uniform he actually works harder and does a better job because it puts him in the correct frame of mind. Some women like their males to be naked but I don't then look like a man and think like a man and do not convey their true subservient status. Some women think that allowing them to dress as a woman is demeaning to women or lowers women it does not. A maid is a maid and woman or man it is not a position of authority or power. It is a subservient position and wearing a maid's uniform represents that position. In addition you can make him wear feminine things that no woman would wear. Even a woman would feel very prissy in many of the sissy outfits my husband is required to wear and only the most submissive of females would be caught wearing such things. It's about image and not the garments themselves. It's about impressing on the weak mind of the male what he is and what he is not. It is not possible for a husband to wait on his wife and her male lover in a maid's uniform and feel anywhere near equal or in charge or think he has the ability to change what is going on.


I don't deny my husband sex or really anything for that matter but there are consequences to everything he does or wants to do. For example he can masturbate as often as he wants but there are rules as to how it must occur. He must be completely feminized while doing so. So he must put on panties and bra, a corset and slip, nylons and heels, nail polish and makeup and a pretty dress. He also must do it with a dildo inserted. So what does all of this do? He associates with being feminine with pleasure. He learns that sex is a good thing and he can get all he wants as long as he does it properly and when he does it properly he becomes more feminine, more submissive, more accepting of his role in my life. I don't deny him or tell him he can't so he understands I want him to enjoy himself and each time he does so he does enjoy himself reinforcing that what I want of him is best for him. Sex like this is fantastic for a male. It's relaxing and sexy and really turns him on and yet it becomes very satisfying so he wants to repeat it.


Yes chastity can work but still should be used in conjunction with the feminine requirement.


Now we advance to the new reward system. We began to reward him with our attention and our bodies but we are going to change it now that he understands that he must perform all of the time not just when he wants sex. You can start by placing three rewards on three separate pieces of paper. Make one of them you giving him sex but the other two should be to create a more submissive or feminine personality. For example you may write a penis gag on one and a corset on the other. Once the sex has been drawn its gone. Each time a reward is given you add two new ones, lacey panties or a new bottle of nail polish. When he chooses the next from the hat you add two more, hearing the details of your date with another man and new wig on the other. In this manner he chooses his reward and you confirm that. When he reaches into the hat and draws one out you smile and get excited as you open it for him and read it. You say, "You have made a wonderful selection for your reward, you get a new color nail polish to wear, we will go shopping tomorrow and you can pick it out, oh won't that be fun?" Always say YOUR choice, Your Selection. If the prize is a new dress for example pick out two of them at the store and let him make the final choice, You are involving him in his own feminization training. You may have him show off his new dress to a guest and you can say, "This is the cute dress that Sissie wanted, he chose this one over the other that I liked but it was his reward so he got his pick." This sticks in his mind, yes he did pick that one. Yes it was his choice, yes it was a reward. The male mind only understands reward and his choice and it affects his mind in a most perfect manner.


So as you can see it is not all that difficult to train a male however you chose to do whatever you want. You need only be patient and keep repeating until he gets it. Some are faster t getting it than others. Some love their rewards so much they will excel at becoming the submissive, obedient, subservient pansies you want them to become and others are slower.


It is actually quite easy if you follow these steps and it matters not that he knows or does not know what you are doing. He wants the rewards. What matters is that you know what you want and you are consistent. You must stick with it, be patient and keep repeating until he gets it. The end result is you live like the princess you are and should be living like and he learns that pleasing and serving you makes him happier than he could ever imagine. Honestly, a well trained subservient husband is the happiest kind of husband. It matters not that he might have to navigate around in high heels serving you and your guest and lover as a sissy maid, or be spanked in front of a your friends or made to do things so humiliating that no real man would ever do them just to amuse you ro your friends. He will thrive on your control and his love and dedication to you will increase with each step of control you place on him.


The only reason this will not work is the failure on YOUR part to plan what you want and then train him, in other words if you are too lazy to look out for yourself it won't happen and you will end up being the bored, unhappy housewife catering to a man who will control you! It's really your choice.


I hope you make the right one, I know I did!


Madam Rebecca


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