2007年3月26日 星期一

出櫃或不一定要全部出櫃 (TO BE OUT OF THE CLOSET OR NOT TO BE AT ALL)



Negation is also to distract ourselves. So if a bunch of gurls are inside a bar, church or casino that is fine, because who enter there should be aware what is going to find, not only around but in front of himself, in a flat and shining mirror. But if we are inside with people that we are use to be, are we out of the closet? Isn't that building a bigger one?



To be outside is nice, especially when you do that all the time, specially the first several years of the rest of your life. What do you think is the worst nightmare that happens when you get out dressed like a lovely lady?

- to be recognized by my mom!

- to be confronted with my folks or my siblings



They should be on your side, so some of them already new or suspect. What other people are doing is just leave small evidences, especially to the person in the family that you can talk and also you can trust in. You can write, you can make a cassette, and DVD or even a YouTube video, the main points should to address:



1. That is nobodies fault.

2. That is not a rational thinking, or in other words is in your brain hardware, deeply wiring, so you can stop with a lot of frustration, an sooner or latter you will do it again, transgenderism is just a disease like homosexuality when you do not accept what you are (Egodistonic), it is a kid of paradoxical cause, if you denied there are some pressure that you built up inside. BUT OTHE THAN THAT IS A NORMAL ALTERNATIVE WAY OF BEING THAT HAPPENS 1 IN 30 000 CHILDREN THAT ARE BORN (Except in some Countries like Thailand in which numbers are shorter than that 1: 3000 and 1 : 180).

All this kind of build up in pressures once they are strong result in nonvery well calculated manifestations, and usually that make you in a transitory out of control.

3. Beside of these protected and closed places you should get out whit friends, you can use mask, or covert your face, use solar glances, havy make-up, and not only pride parade but at least once a week, in molls, public places, you sould make people aware that you hhave been around so they do not have to be afraid. People must be use to the third gender. That should be the goal: to remove the stereotype that all Ts, TV, Cross dress are in escort, hair, dressing business. Gurls in that area are very respectable and are the leading or scouts of the field.

We have to make the change as women in early 1900 when the fight for their right of voting, that now seems t oevery one so obvious, or to African American to sit what ever the want in public transportation or Jews not to be force to have a symbol in their clothes.

So you as a world community and people that support you we have the obligation of make this trans-homophobia part of history, no one is going to do that for us.

Why is important to remove the stereotype? Among other things to validate that since the beginning of our history as human beings transgender were among us.

Because what we have learn about neurosciences of self-awareness, transgender as a human group has the same connections of limbic system (emotions) that biological women. So it is not just to exclude them a crime but because they are especially sensitive to feelings and love, the rejection and marginality, could cause in them a serious damage, that last life time



So because our narrow mind, because all the prejudice, we as human beings, we are wasted a source of love, complementing an understandings even for man and woman relationships, as in Greek times, in which women and androgynies were part of a evaluative strategy to compensate the excessive libido that evolution put into males, because the maternal and child death during pregnancy and delivery.



The main source of problems against TG are men themselves, so they need to be educated that I is normal to feel attracted toward Transgender Women, that is the reason that evolution or God creates them, jus to control the sexual drive in heterosexual man. Also that they are no homosexuals, because gays they feel attraction between them without the necessity to changes body appearance. So a transsexual MtF could be attracted to male or female or both oh them. So that is a different channel.



If women think that TG are a competency they are wrong too, for obvious reasons. Beside, transgender women are a kind of bridge of communication and harmony, because TG wants to learn from Women, and there is a synchrony of emotions between them.



So lets say that for a long period of time humans beings have lived in a big mistake, hide our feminine of masculine desires, just because was against regulations, or against reproductive goals. That is not a goal any more. On the contrary, not to use this nature mechanism at proper time may be part of the over population of our planet.

PERHAPS WE ARE ON TIME TO RELEASE LOVE, BECAUSE TRANSGENDER BEINGS IS A MATTER OF LOVE.

TO all believers of different Religions.

MARCELO MASS

4 則留言:

Morica 提到...

這篇其實講的很棒
對於還沒準備好完全出櫃的朋友
尤其是台灣這種保守的單一性社會

半出櫃可能比較適合你喔
試試看 你會感到更有安全感的

匿名 提到...

Morica,

甚麼是出櫃呢?Thanks~~~~~~:)

Danielle.

Morica 提到...

出櫃 means you let everybody know you are gay or TG or crossdresser in public.

匿名 提到...

Morica,

I see,I think it will be ok to be 全出櫃as one will become the newhalf as many people will treat them as the gal~~~~~~:)

Danielle.